doublev2 wrote:No way did she beat herself and then go to the police to pin it on him.
Also witnesses testified what they heard and saw. My kids have knocked me down from behind and I dont drink.
Let me enlighten you. I suspect your cognition is working different than mine.
I suspect that you are an "f-type" and you are focused on values.
Okay, I have gotten the message. Abuse is wrong. No victim should be disrespected. Got it. No problem.
I don't mean to trip you out here, but "t-types" like me, aren't making value based judgments like you. I am making decisions based on cold, hard facts.
You may be wondering why you should care? Cause the way I am communicating. I am not weighing the people, but rather the evidence.
You are being the heart here, and I am being the mind.
Look, I am not calling Diane a liar. I am talking about the affects of alcohol on the memory, and the mind in general. It has nothing to do with her character. I'm thinking the "bitch slap" is plausible, but the dragging is the detail I get stuck on like a needle skipping on a scratch. It's the one thing in the story that doesn't settle.
It's true, you can be knocked down, but there are points on the body which are Achilles heels. It is not like carrying the weight of a fully grown adult.
I was raised by the "fighting is evil" personality type, an ISFJ. I am not questioning whether a slap is bad. Maybe it was a fucked up attempt at controlling an out of control drunk person? Notice I am emphasizing "fucked up". I am questioning the probability of Vinnie Vincent actually dragging a fully grown woman's entire body weight across the floor. Perhaps he pulled her hair, she feels it, thinks he dragged her through glass. There would be two possible motivations I can think of 1) he was lifting her head out of glass and 2) he tried and failed at dragging her across the floor. I would think a man wouldn't want his wife's face scarred, but not everyone thinks rational. I don't know. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, even if they aren't saints.
I am exploring possibilities...I don't know why this seems disrespectful to Diane. When someone is drunk and someone else questions whether things were fuzzy or not, it isn't questioning credibility or character. It's questioning the effects of alcohol on the memory. And "pinning something on" someone requires reasoning, which is not an argument when discussing an intoxicated person. Judgment is impaired. Drunk people are not themselves.
This is not a "drunk people deserve to beaten" argument either.
Live life as though it is the third law; "to every action there is an equal and opposite reaction." Rules apply whether we are cognizant of them or oblivious.